Top 10 Virtual First Date Tips for Men
Gentlemen, the dating game has changed...
The coronavirus pandemic has shutdown in person dates and made it virtual. The new normal involves text chats, video calls, and DFH (Date from home). To help you survive and thrive in this new age of dating, here are my Top 10 Virtual First Date Tips for Men.
The advice is based on my experience hosting 50+ virtual events, including the virtual dating show The Blind Dating Game. I have personally witnessed what works on virtual dates and I'm here to help you step up your game.
Bad camera and lighting setup
Better camera & lighting setup
The virtual background is a photo I took while traveling in El Nido, Philippines.
You need to check that your camera is working, your audio is clear, and you don't have any software issues. Best bet is to test it with a friend and get their feedback on how you look and sound.
Remember that if you fail to plan, then you're planning to fail.
Plus, knowing that you're looking your best will give you a big boost to your confidence during the date.
Your date could last anywhere between 30 minutes to 2 hours. So prepare your setup with everything you may need.
Prepare how you would before sitting down for a movie. Show up early, use the restroom, grab a beverage, and set your phone to silent. The last thing you want is to run to the bathroom just as things are getting interesting.
If it's a first date then there will be some awkwardness at the beginning. That's normal and should be expected. However, you should try to get past the awkward stage ASAP.
The best way is to have a list of fun icebreaker questions ready. Use these whenever there's a gap during the conversation.
Each of these questions should spark a conversation that can continue for a while. Have a few related personal stories prepared when it's your turn to share.
Aside from the weather, religion and politics, you should stay away from the following topics:
Basically try to keep the conversation positive and fun. If it starts going in the wrong direction then gently guided back to something better.
Just because we can't go to a bar or restaurant doesn't mean we can't go to a virtual one. You can make the date more interesting by suggesting that you meet in a virtual cocktail bar in NYC, or a seaside restaurant in Peru.
The setting provides context clues for how the interaction should go. It wouldn't be weird in a virtual cocktail bar to talk about your favorite drinks or bartenders.
Wouldn't you want to be here instead of your living room? Feel free to use this as your virtual background.
The goal of a date is to allow the two of you to learn about each other. After you ask your interesting questions make sure that you listen to her response. Acknowledge what she said and respond to it after she's done. Don't interrupt and do not talk over her.
Remember that dates aren't just about one-on-one conversations, they are about two people sharing an intimate experience together. You can get creative and come up with an activity that you can both do together.
Since you're both DFH, it can be hard to know when the date should end. You should set an end time at the start of the date so both people know how long it will go.
Of course, if the date is going great and you're having a blast then feel free to hangout more. But do ask her if she agrees and don't just assume she's also having a great time.
How the date ends plays a huge part in how the date will be remembered. Did the date end with sparks flying and both people excited for part II? Or did it sputter with a lot of vague language and uncertainty? It's up to you to make your intentions clear.
For example, you can say: "I had a wonderful time tonight and I would love to see you again. I will use your salmon recipe and show you the results next time. Are you free this Saturday evening?"
This confirms that you had a good time, you care about what she shared, and it gives her something to look forward to on your next date.
By following the Top 10 Virtual First Date Tips for Men, you'll look better on camera, have more intimate conversations, and create a memorable experience she'll look forward to having again. Don't blame me when you have too many virtual dates to handle!
If you are new to the game and want to practice your virtual first date skills, then you should join The Blind Dating Game. This is a game where contestants date and connect without ever seeing each other's faces. Over the course of three weeks you'll narrow down your matches until you find your ideal match. Apply to join the next game.
Mostly importantly, remember that DFH is supposed to be fun! Now go out there and rock your virtual first dates!